"I go around the room and ask people, 'What do you think?'"
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In a corporate culture trained to mistake speed for certainty, Sandberg’s line is quietly radical: power that pauses to solicit input. “I go around the room” is an image of leadership as choreography, not proclamation. It’s physical, almost tactile. The boss doesn’t beam a request from the head of the table; she circulates, making participation harder to dodge and harder to punish. That movement matters because most meeting “openness” is performative: a broad “Any thoughts?” tossed into the air where only the most senior, most confident, or most socially insulated will answer.
The blunt, almost childlike prompt - “What do you think?” - is doing social engineering. It turns opinion into a job duty, not a personality perk. The subtext is psychological safety by design: if everyone is asked, no one looks like a dissenter for speaking. It’s also a hedge against groupthink, the boardroom disease where smart people outsource their brains to the loudest voice and call it alignment.
Sandberg’s context, shaped by Silicon Valley’s self-mythology and her own Lean In-era brand, makes the line double as a gendered corrective. Women in leadership are often punished for “commanding” and penalized for “softness”; structured invitation becomes a way to be decisive about inclusion. There’s a second, less flattering reading too: asking everyone can be a technique for buy-in, converting consultation into consent. Either way, the sentence captures a modern executive’s tightrope: authority that must look democratic to remain legitimate.
The blunt, almost childlike prompt - “What do you think?” - is doing social engineering. It turns opinion into a job duty, not a personality perk. The subtext is psychological safety by design: if everyone is asked, no one looks like a dissenter for speaking. It’s also a hedge against groupthink, the boardroom disease where smart people outsource their brains to the loudest voice and call it alignment.
Sandberg’s context, shaped by Silicon Valley’s self-mythology and her own Lean In-era brand, makes the line double as a gendered corrective. Women in leadership are often punished for “commanding” and penalized for “softness”; structured invitation becomes a way to be decisive about inclusion. There’s a second, less flattering reading too: asking everyone can be a technique for buy-in, converting consultation into consent. Either way, the sentence captures a modern executive’s tightrope: authority that must look democratic to remain legitimate.
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