"I had achieved the most important things in my life when I married Joan and had the sons. Given the choice between Joan and the boys, and being a writer, I world give up being a writer without a blink"
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The intent is partly corrective. Writers are encouraged to treat art as vocation, marriage as compromise, children as distraction. Parker flips the hierarchy and does it in plain, unornamented language. No lyrical padding, no tortured “balance.” The bluntness is the point: he’s refusing the cultural script where ambition earns moral exemption.
The subtext is more interesting than the sentimentality people might project onto it. “Without a blink” reads like self-defense against the writer’s own ego, a preemptive strike on the idea that he’s irreplaceable. It also hints at a lifetime of choices made under pressure: deadlines, touring, isolation, the small daily bargains that can quietly price out intimacy. By naming wife and sons as “the most important things,” he’s not just praising family; he’s re-framing success away from public validation and toward private obligation.
Context matters, too. Parker came of age in an era that rewarded men for prioritizing work and letting family absorb the cost. His declaration is a late-life moral accounting: a hard-boiled writer admitting what actually softens the world, and insisting that this softness is strength, not weakness.
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Parker, Robert B. (2026, January 17). I had achieved the most important things in my life when I married Joan and had the sons. Given the choice between Joan and the boys, and being a writer, I world give up being a writer without a blink. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-had-achieved-the-most-important-things-in-my-71052/
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Parker, Robert B. "I had achieved the most important things in my life when I married Joan and had the sons. Given the choice between Joan and the boys, and being a writer, I world give up being a writer without a blink." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-had-achieved-the-most-important-things-in-my-71052/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I had achieved the most important things in my life when I married Joan and had the sons. Given the choice between Joan and the boys, and being a writer, I world give up being a writer without a blink." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-had-achieved-the-most-important-things-in-my-71052/. Accessed 11 Feb. 2026.



