"I hate to be a failure. I hate and regret the failure of my marriages. I would gladly give all my millions for just one lasting marital success"
About this Quote
The intent reads as both admission and image management. “I hate to be a failure” frames the problem in the language of performance, not intimacy. He’s not describing heartbreak; he’s describing a loss on the scoreboard. That word choice matters. It reveals a businessman’s reflex: even love becomes a metric, even regret becomes a balance sheet. “Gladly give all my millions” is hyperbole with a purpose, converting emotional deprivation into a headline-ready exchange rate. It’s also a bid for relatability, a way to say: I’m not immune to the one thing you can’t insure.
The subtext is harsher: Getty can imagine surrendering wealth, but only in fantasy, because the same traits that build empires - control, risk appetite, impatience with friction - corrode domestic stability. His multiple marriages weren’t a mystery to be solved; they were a pattern.
Context sharpens the irony. Getty’s era lionized the self-made tycoon while keeping divorce, alcoholism, and family estrangement politely offstage. This quote drags the backstage mess into the spotlight, insisting that success can be total and still feel unfinished.
Quote Details
| Topic | Marriage |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Getty, J. Paul. (2026, January 17). I hate to be a failure. I hate and regret the failure of my marriages. I would gladly give all my millions for just one lasting marital success. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-hate-to-be-a-failure-i-hate-and-regret-the-55512/
Chicago Style
Getty, J. Paul. "I hate to be a failure. I hate and regret the failure of my marriages. I would gladly give all my millions for just one lasting marital success." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-hate-to-be-a-failure-i-hate-and-regret-the-55512/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I hate to be a failure. I hate and regret the failure of my marriages. I would gladly give all my millions for just one lasting marital success." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-hate-to-be-a-failure-i-hate-and-regret-the-55512/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.









