"I have a tendency to go through my life at full speed and as a one-man band, and so I don't generally stop and take in other people enough to develop many relationships. I'm starting to regret that a bit. I want to change it"
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The subtext is less "I’m lonely" than "I’ve been unavailable". By choosing a phrase like "don’t generally stop and take in other people", she’s admitting the problem isn’t a lack of opportunity or even affection; it’s attention. Relationship-building requires a specific kind of wastefulness: time spent without output, conversations that don’t advance a plot, vulnerability that doesn’t pay immediate dividends. Her persona, shaped by decades in an industry that turns identity into a performance, makes that admission sharper. Actors are paid to connect on cue; sustaining connection off-camera is messier and, crucially, unscored.
The late pivot matters. "Starting to regret that a bit" is deliberately understated, as if she’s keeping the emotion on a leash. It suggests someone practiced at staying composed, now letting discomfort leak through. "I want to change it" lands as a rare kind of agency: not a brand refresh, not a motivational slogan, but a quiet rebellion against the cult of self-sufficiency. In a culture that treats busyness as moral achievement, she’s naming its most under-discussed casualty: intimacy.
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| Topic | Friendship |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Anderson, Gillian. (2026, January 17). I have a tendency to go through my life at full speed and as a one-man band, and so I don't generally stop and take in other people enough to develop many relationships. I'm starting to regret that a bit. I want to change it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-a-tendency-to-go-through-my-life-at-full-53490/
Chicago Style
Anderson, Gillian. "I have a tendency to go through my life at full speed and as a one-man band, and so I don't generally stop and take in other people enough to develop many relationships. I'm starting to regret that a bit. I want to change it." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-a-tendency-to-go-through-my-life-at-full-53490/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I have a tendency to go through my life at full speed and as a one-man band, and so I don't generally stop and take in other people enough to develop many relationships. I'm starting to regret that a bit. I want to change it." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-a-tendency-to-go-through-my-life-at-full-53490/. Accessed 26 Feb. 2026.






