"I have known more men destroyed by the desire to have wife and child and to keep them in comfort than I have seen destroyed by drink and harlots"
About this Quote
The real target is the bourgeois idea of “comfort” as a duty. Yeats suggests that the hunger to provide can become a self-consuming engine: men taking on work they hate, compromising their principles, shrinking their ambitions, turning their lives into an endless payment plan for security. “Desire” is telling here, too. This isn’t love’s generosity; it’s appetite, status anxiety, fear of failure, the pressure to perform masculinity as breadwinning. The family becomes less a sanctuary than a mechanism that converts affection into perpetual need.
Context matters: Yeats lived through an Ireland where respectability carried sharp social force and where nationalist, religious, and class expectations policed private life. As a poet who prized vocation and inner freedom, he had reason to distrust any institution that demanded the self be traded for stability. The line’s sting is its inversion: the supposedly clean life can quietly do the dirtiest work on a person, because it recruits honor to justify exhaustion.
Quote Details
| Topic | Husband & Wife |
|---|---|
| Source | Verified source: Estrangement (Extracts from a Diary Kept in 1909) (William Butler Yeats, 1936)
Evidence: Evil comes to us men of imagination wearing as its mask all the virtues. I have certainly known more men destroyed by the desire to have wife and child and to keep them in comfort than I have seen destroyed by drink and harlots. (Extract 38 (also printed in later collected editions; page varies by edition)). Primary-source location: Yeats’s prose memoir/diary section titled “Estrangement: Extracts from a Diary Kept in 1909,” specifically Extract XXXVIII (38). This section was published within the Macmillan volume "Dramatis Personae, 1896-1902. Estrangement. The Death of Synge. The Bounty of Sweden" (New York: Macmillan, 1936). A widely cited earlier appearance is periodical publication in The London Mercury in Nov–Dec 1935 as part of Yeats’s “Dramatis Personae” installments, and the Cuala Press book "Dramatis Personae" was published 9 Dec 1935 (limited edition). To verify the *first* publication precisely, you would need to consult the Nov/Dec 1935 London Mercury issues (or the Cuala Press 1935 volume) and locate this sentence in the “Estrangement” extracts; online snippets confirm the serialization dates but I did not retrieve page-scans of the Mercury issues in this search session. The quote is often mis-copied without Yeats’s preceding sentence (“Evil comes to us men of imagination…”), and sometimes appears with “a wife and child” instead of “wife and child.” Other candidates (1) The Seven Initiations on the Spiritual Path (Michael Mirdad, 2008) compilation97.2% ... I have known more men destroyed by the desire to have wife and child and to keep them in comfort than I have seen... |
| Cite |
Citation Formats
APA Style (7th ed.)
Yeats, William Butler. (2026, February 13). I have known more men destroyed by the desire to have wife and child and to keep them in comfort than I have seen destroyed by drink and harlots. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-known-more-men-destroyed-by-the-desire-to-11049/
Chicago Style
Yeats, William Butler. "I have known more men destroyed by the desire to have wife and child and to keep them in comfort than I have seen destroyed by drink and harlots." FixQuotes. February 13, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-known-more-men-destroyed-by-the-desire-to-11049/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I have known more men destroyed by the desire to have wife and child and to keep them in comfort than I have seen destroyed by drink and harlots." FixQuotes, 13 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-known-more-men-destroyed-by-the-desire-to-11049/. Accessed 25 Feb. 2026.












