"I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment"
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As an actress in mid-century Hollywood, Farmer moved through a system built on leverage. Celebrity turns the self into currency; people approach you with invisible invoices. Add the documented turbulence of her life - public scrutiny, coercive authority, the sense of being managed rather than known - and “payment” starts to sound like more than money. It’s the cost of being loved conditionally: behave, perform, stay useful.
The intent is both grateful and guarded. She isn’t romanticizing friendship as cute companionship; she’s defining it as rare moral proof that love can exist without a contract. The subtext is a quiet indictment of relationships that masquerade as care while extracting something in return. By framing friendship as gift rather than transaction, Farmer stakes out a small sanctuary of dignity: a bond where you’re not an asset, a role, or a redemption project, just a person someone chooses without needing a receipt.
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| Topic | Friendship |
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| Source | Evidence: To have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment. It is not inherited, as with a family. It is not compelling, as with a child. And it has no means of physical pleasure, as with a mate. It is, therefore, an indescribable bond that brings wit... Other candidates (1) Power of a Positive Friend GIFT (Karol Ladd, Terry Ladd, 2010) compilation96.9% ... I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts , for it is a love that has no exchang... |
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Farmer, Frances. (2026, March 16). I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-learned-that-to-have-a-good-friend-is-the-117452/
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Farmer, Frances. "I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment." FixQuotes. March 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-learned-that-to-have-a-good-friend-is-the-117452/.
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"I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment." FixQuotes, 16 Mar. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-learned-that-to-have-a-good-friend-is-the-117452/. Accessed 5 Apr. 2026.











