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Love Quote by Frances Farmer

"I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment"

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Farmer’s line reads like a benediction from someone who learned affection the hard way. Calling friendship “the purest of all God’s gifts” isn’t churchy window-dressing so much as a bid to elevate what the world around her - fame, studios, institutions, even family - routinely turned transactional. When she says a good friend is “a love that has no exchange of payment,” the emphasis falls on exchange: she’s naming the hidden toll behind most adult relationships, where attention, loyalty, and even tenderness get priced in status, access, favors, or compliance.

As an actress in mid-century Hollywood, Farmer moved through a system built on leverage. Celebrity turns the self into currency; people approach you with invisible invoices. Add the documented turbulence of her life - public scrutiny, coercive authority, the sense of being managed rather than known - and “payment” starts to sound like more than money. It’s the cost of being loved conditionally: behave, perform, stay useful.

The intent is both grateful and guarded. She isn’t romanticizing friendship as cute companionship; she’s defining it as rare moral proof that love can exist without a contract. The subtext is a quiet indictment of relationships that masquerade as care while extracting something in return. By framing friendship as gift rather than transaction, Farmer stakes out a small sanctuary of dignity: a bond where you’re not an asset, a role, or a redemption project, just a person someone chooses without needing a receipt.

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TopicFriendship
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Unverified source: Will There Really Be a Morning? (Frances Farmer, 1972)ISBN: 9780399109133
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To have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment. It is not inherited, as with a family. It is not compelling, as with a child. And it has no means of physical pleasure, as with a mate. It is, therefore, an indescribable bond that brings wit...
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Power of a Positive Friend GIFT (Karol Ladd, Terry Ladd, 2010) compilation96.9%
... I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts , for it is a love that has no exchang...
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Farmer, Frances. (2026, March 16). I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-learned-that-to-have-a-good-friend-is-the-117452/

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Farmer, Frances. "I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment." FixQuotes. March 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-learned-that-to-have-a-good-friend-is-the-117452/.

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"I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment." FixQuotes, 16 Mar. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-learned-that-to-have-a-good-friend-is-the-117452/. Accessed 5 Apr. 2026.

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Frances Farmer (September 19, 1913 - August 1, 1970) was a Actress from USA.

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