"I have this sense that I didn't really start growing up until my twenties"
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The intent feels corrective. Ryder’s career made her an emblem of precocious cool in the late ’80s and ’90s, the smart outsider with big feelings and sharper edges. That image sells tickets, but it also traps a person in a permanently curated adolescence. Saying she didn’t start “growing up” until her twenties reframes those earlier years as performance and survival rather than development. The subtext: growing up requires privacy, mistakes without consequences, boredom, unglamorous repetition - all the things fame extracts and replaces with spectacle.
It’s also a quiet critique of how we treat young women in pop culture: either as fully formed fantasies or cautionary tales. Ryder’s own public arc (ingenue, icon, tabloid spiral, later career resurgence) makes the sentence feel less like self-help wisdom and more like lived experience. The power here is its modesty. She’s not offering a redemption narrative; she’s proposing a different metric, one where maturity begins when you finally get to be a person instead of a projection.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Ryder, Winona. (2026, January 16). I have this sense that I didn't really start growing up until my twenties. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-this-sense-that-i-didnt-really-start-137388/
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Ryder, Winona. "I have this sense that I didn't really start growing up until my twenties." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-this-sense-that-i-didnt-really-start-137388/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I have this sense that I didn't really start growing up until my twenties." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-this-sense-that-i-didnt-really-start-137388/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.






