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Creativity Quote by Jewel

"I have this theory- that if we're told we're bad, then that's the only ideal we'll ever have"

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Jewel’s line lands like a quiet indictment of the way shame gets installed early and then mistaken for personality. She’s not arguing that people become “bad” because they’re scolded once; she’s describing a more corrosive loop: label becomes ceiling. If the world keeps naming you a problem, you eventually stop auditioning for any other role. “Theory” matters here. It’s not a sermon, it’s a survivor’s hypothesis - emotional knowledge dressed in modesty, the kind you arrive at by watching yourself and others adapt to neglect.

The sly power is in “ideal.” She’s talking about aspiration, not behavior. Being told you’re bad doesn’t just hurt; it colonizes your imagination about what you’re allowed to want. You don’t merely act out, you calibrate your self-concept to the most available script. That’s a very 90s Jewel move: plain language that sneaks in a sharp critique of social conditioning.

Context helps. Jewel emerged as a confessional singer-songwriter when mainstream pop was selling glossy invincibility. Her work often circles poverty, family rupture, and the tender brutalities of growing up without emotional safety. In that light, the quote reads like a rebuttal to moralizing culture: if you want different outcomes, stop assigning fixed identities. The subtext is political without waving a flag - a reminder that “bad” is often a convenient story society tells about people it has already failed, then uses that story to justify failing them again.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Jewel. (2026, January 16). I have this theory- that if we're told we're bad, then that's the only ideal we'll ever have. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-this-theory-that-if-were-told-were-bad-91521/

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Jewel. "I have this theory- that if we're told we're bad, then that's the only ideal we'll ever have." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-this-theory-that-if-were-told-were-bad-91521/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I have this theory- that if we're told we're bad, then that's the only ideal we'll ever have." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-this-theory-that-if-were-told-were-bad-91521/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.

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Jewel (born May 23, 1974) is a Musician from USA.

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