"I have three adopted children with Phil, and for years I was fighting in court with him over being able to see my kids. I was always going back and forth to California, going to court, and I was never able to get a project going"
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The intent is bluntly corrective. “For years” and “always” aren’t just emphasis; they’re a tally of attrition. By naming the geography (“back and forth to California”), she sketches a punishing, repetitive commute that reads like a second job - one with no paycheck and no endpoint. The subtext is control: custody battles aren’t only about children, they’re about power, access, and who gets to define a woman’s identity when she’s also a famous voice. “With Phil” does quiet work too, refusing to grant him the intimacy of a last name while still anchoring the story in a widely known, lopsided relationship.
Context matters because Spector’s career is often framed through the romance and tragedy of the Ronettes and the Wall of Sound. She pushes the camera lower, toward paperwork and stalled projects, revealing how abuse and legal combat don’t just harm privately; they throttle public legacy. It’s not a confession designed for sympathy so much as a record: what it cost, what it stole, and why the gaps in her discography were never a mystery of talent.
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| Topic | Parenting |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Spector, Ronnie. (2026, January 16). I have three adopted children with Phil, and for years I was fighting in court with him over being able to see my kids. I was always going back and forth to California, going to court, and I was never able to get a project going. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-three-adopted-children-with-phil-and-for-97070/
Chicago Style
Spector, Ronnie. "I have three adopted children with Phil, and for years I was fighting in court with him over being able to see my kids. I was always going back and forth to California, going to court, and I was never able to get a project going." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-three-adopted-children-with-phil-and-for-97070/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I have three adopted children with Phil, and for years I was fighting in court with him over being able to see my kids. I was always going back and forth to California, going to court, and I was never able to get a project going." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-have-three-adopted-children-with-phil-and-for-97070/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.



