"I just didn't know who was going to be my partner. I knew that once I had grown to be a man that I was going to attract the person that I deserved to be with, or deserved to be with me"
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The real engine here is the word “deserved.” It smuggles moral accounting into romance. He’s not describing chemistry, luck, or even choice so much as outcome: become the right man, and the right person appears. That’s an appealing cultural script because it makes love feel legible and fair in a world that often isn’t. It also flatters the self: if the partner is “deserved,” then the relationship can be read as proof of growth, worthiness, and good decisions.
There’s a double edge, though. “Attract the person that I deserved to be with, or deserved to be with me” tries to balance the scales, acknowledging mutuality rather than possession. Still, it risks turning partnership into a reward system: if things go wrong, do we retroactively become people who didn’t deserve each other? In celebrity culture, where relationships are treated like public referendums on character, that logic is especially seductive - and especially punishing.
Underneath, he’s offering reassurance: adulthood isn’t just aging; it’s earning.
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| Topic | Soulmate |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Kodjoe, Boris. (2026, January 18). I just didn't know who was going to be my partner. I knew that once I had grown to be a man that I was going to attract the person that I deserved to be with, or deserved to be with me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-just-didnt-know-who-was-going-to-be-my-partner-4271/
Chicago Style
Kodjoe, Boris. "I just didn't know who was going to be my partner. I knew that once I had grown to be a man that I was going to attract the person that I deserved to be with, or deserved to be with me." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-just-didnt-know-who-was-going-to-be-my-partner-4271/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I just didn't know who was going to be my partner. I knew that once I had grown to be a man that I was going to attract the person that I deserved to be with, or deserved to be with me." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-just-didnt-know-who-was-going-to-be-my-partner-4271/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.










