"I know he was definitely beaten by her. I saw it many times. But we had a different way of dealing with her. He'd let her have more and more booze until she passed out"
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The subtext is less about concern for the victim than about control and image. If “he was definitely beaten by her,” Gest frames the man as the harmed party, a reversal that can function as absolution: see, it’s messy on both sides. The follow-up method - “more and more booze until she passed out” - reveals a culture that treats a woman’s incapacitation as a solution, not an emergency. It’s not intervention; it’s sedation. The language carefully dodges accountability: no one “forces,” no one “drugged,” no one “endangered.” They “let” her drink, a verb that sounds permissive, even generous, while describing something predatory.
Context matters: Gest’s celebrity-world proximity to tabloid-famous relationships makes this feel like an anecdote told for shock value and insider cachet. The intent isn’t to protect anyone; it’s to perform access. What makes it work, rhetorically, is how it exposes the entertainment ecosystem’s moral anesthesia: violence becomes content, addiction becomes a tool, and “dealing with her” becomes a euphemism for erasing a person when she’s inconvenient.
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| Topic | Husband & Wife |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Gest, David. (2026, January 16). I know he was definitely beaten by her. I saw it many times. But we had a different way of dealing with her. He'd let her have more and more booze until she passed out. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-know-he-was-definitely-beaten-by-her-i-saw-it-88002/
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Gest, David. "I know he was definitely beaten by her. I saw it many times. But we had a different way of dealing with her. He'd let her have more and more booze until she passed out." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-know-he-was-definitely-beaten-by-her-i-saw-it-88002/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I know he was definitely beaten by her. I saw it many times. But we had a different way of dealing with her. He'd let her have more and more booze until she passed out." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-know-he-was-definitely-beaten-by-her-i-saw-it-88002/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.


