"I learned something from that. If someone asks me something that I really don't want to do, I say no. I have to trust that. And I'm not afraid to talk money"
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The cleanest kind of power is the kind you don’t have to perform. Ross frames her boundary-setting as a skill she had to learn, not an innate diva reflex. That matters: it rewrites the stereotype that women in entertainment are either accommodating “sweethearts” or difficult “egos.” Her “I learned something from that” hints at an earlier moment of being cornered - a bad deal, a manipulative ask, an expectation to smile through discomfort - and it’s the quiet aftermath of experience that gives the line its bite.
“If someone asks me something that I really don’t want to do, I say no” sounds simple until you place it in the machinery of show business, where access is currency and refusal can be punished as ingratitude. The subtext is about leverage: saying no isn’t just personal wellness, it’s a negotiation tactic, a refusal to be managed by fear. “I have to trust that” signals the psychological cost of boundaries. She’s describing an internal recalibration, choosing her own instincts over the industry’s constant second-guessing and flattery.
Then she lands on the real taboo: money. “I’m not afraid to talk money” is a cultural rebuke to the way women, especially Black women, are trained to treat compensation as unseemly - to be “grateful” for exposure, to accept opaque terms, to let other people define their worth. Ross isn’t making greed sound glamorous; she’s making clarity sound nonnegotiable. In a business built on illusion, she insists on the one thing that shouldn’t be imaginary: value.
“If someone asks me something that I really don’t want to do, I say no” sounds simple until you place it in the machinery of show business, where access is currency and refusal can be punished as ingratitude. The subtext is about leverage: saying no isn’t just personal wellness, it’s a negotiation tactic, a refusal to be managed by fear. “I have to trust that” signals the psychological cost of boundaries. She’s describing an internal recalibration, choosing her own instincts over the industry’s constant second-guessing and flattery.
Then she lands on the real taboo: money. “I’m not afraid to talk money” is a cultural rebuke to the way women, especially Black women, are trained to treat compensation as unseemly - to be “grateful” for exposure, to accept opaque terms, to let other people define their worth. Ross isn’t making greed sound glamorous; she’s making clarity sound nonnegotiable. In a business built on illusion, she insists on the one thing that shouldn’t be imaginary: value.
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| Topic | Confidence |
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