"I like someone who's suffered from both sides"
About this Quote
As an actress, Lane’s career lives on that border. Acting is structured empathy: you borrow a life, then give it back, hopefully changed. So the line doubles as a casting instinct and a romantic one. She’s attracted to the kind of person who can’t afford simplistic judgments because experience has made them bilingual in human behavior. Someone who’s only ever been on one side tends to moralize; someone who’s crossed over tends to notice systems, chance, and the weird elasticity of identity.
The quote also flirts with a critique of American self-mythology. We love narratives of pure grit, the clean triumph over adversity. Lane prefers the messier version: people shaped by contradictions, not just victories. “Suffered” is doing the heavy lifting; it implies cost, not just perspective. The subtext is that character isn’t proven by having opinions, but by having had them broken, revised, and rebuilt when reality refused to cooperate. That’s not sentimental. It’s hard-earned skepticism, delivered in a line that sounds almost casual.
Quote Details
| Topic | Heartbreak |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lane, Diane. (2026, January 17). I like someone who's suffered from both sides. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-like-someone-whos-suffered-from-both-sides-59132/
Chicago Style
Lane, Diane. "I like someone who's suffered from both sides." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-like-someone-whos-suffered-from-both-sides-59132/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I like someone who's suffered from both sides." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-like-someone-whos-suffered-from-both-sides-59132/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.










