"I may have aimed too high sometimes, asked too much of myself and demanded too little from those around me"
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There is a quiet sting to this line because it flips the usual celebrity confession on its head. Instead of blaming “pressure” in the abstract or other people in the concrete, Faltskog aims the spotlight inward, then swivels it outward with a smaller, sharper accusation: she didn’t just overwork; she under-demanded. That second clause is the twist. It suggests a lifetime of being “easy to work with” as a survival strategy, a posture that reads like humility but can function as self-erasure.
Coming from a musician whose career unfolded inside the high-gloss machinery of ABBA and the brutal expectations placed on women in pop, the intent feels less like self-punishment than recalibration. “Aimed too high” and “asked too much of myself” are the socially acceptable forms of ambition: you can admit them because they imply you were driven, maybe even admirable. “Demanded too little from those around me” is riskier. It hints at boundaries not set, labor not shared, needs not voiced. It also quietly indicts the ecosystem: the managers, collaborators, partners, and media dynamics that benefit when a star absorbs the strain privately and keeps the surface unruffled.
The subtext is a mature kind of accountability: not “I should have been kinder to myself,” but “I should have expected more decency, more reciprocity.” In a culture that rewards women performers for being accommodating, the line reads like an overdue revision to the myth of the effortless pop professional: talent isn’t the only thing that gets exploited; politeness does, too.
Coming from a musician whose career unfolded inside the high-gloss machinery of ABBA and the brutal expectations placed on women in pop, the intent feels less like self-punishment than recalibration. “Aimed too high” and “asked too much of myself” are the socially acceptable forms of ambition: you can admit them because they imply you were driven, maybe even admirable. “Demanded too little from those around me” is riskier. It hints at boundaries not set, labor not shared, needs not voiced. It also quietly indicts the ecosystem: the managers, collaborators, partners, and media dynamics that benefit when a star absorbs the strain privately and keeps the surface unruffled.
The subtext is a mature kind of accountability: not “I should have been kinder to myself,” but “I should have expected more decency, more reciprocity.” In a culture that rewards women performers for being accommodating, the line reads like an overdue revision to the myth of the effortless pop professional: talent isn’t the only thing that gets exploited; politeness does, too.
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| Topic | Learning from Mistakes |
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