"I may neither choose who I would, nor refuse who I dislike; so is the will of a living daughter curbed by the will of a dead father"
About this Quote
The intent is double-edged. On the surface, it’s a daughter lamenting arranged marriage, the familiar early modern plot engine. Underneath, Shakespeare is staging how women are forced to internalize coercion as fate. “So is the will…” carries the cadence of a proverb, as if she’s been trained to narrate her own dispossession in the language of inevitability. The father’s “will” is both motive and legal instrument: inheritance law and household command fused into one word. He doesn’t just want; he legislates from the grave.
Contextually, Shakespeare is writing for a society where a daughter’s marriage is economics, alliance, and reputation management. The cruelty here is bureaucratic, not melodramatic. The father isn’t a villain twirling a mustache; he’s a system, embalmed. By making the afterlife of male authority literal, Shakespeare exposes the trap: even death, the great equalizer, doesn’t equalize. It just changes the paperwork.
Quote Details
| Topic | Daughter |
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| Source | Verified source: The Merchant of Venice (William Shakespeare, 1600)
Evidence: But this reasoning is not in the fashion to choose me a husband. O me, the word 'choose'! I may neither choose who I would nor refuse who I dislike; so is the will of a living daughter curb'd by the will of a dead father. Is it not hard, Nerissa, that I cannot choose one, nor refuse none? (Act 1, Scene 2 (Portia speaking)). This line is spoken by Portia in Shakespeare’s play The Merchant of Venice, Act 1, Scene 2. The earliest publication of the play is the first quarto (Q1) printed in 1600. The play was entered in the Stationers’ Register on July 22, 1598, and the Folger Shakespeare Library notes it was first printed in 1600 as a quarto. The wording often circulated as a shortened standalone quote (omitting the surrounding sentences), but the primary-source text includes the full passage above. Other candidates (1) The Merchant of Venice (William Shakespeare, 2015) compilation97.9% A Broadview Anthology of British Literature Edition William Shakespeare Julie Sutherland, Joseph ... I may neither ch... |
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Shakespeare, William. (2026, February 8). I may neither choose who I would, nor refuse who I dislike; so is the will of a living daughter curbed by the will of a dead father. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-may-neither-choose-who-i-would-nor-refuse-who-i-27538/
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Shakespeare, William. "I may neither choose who I would, nor refuse who I dislike; so is the will of a living daughter curbed by the will of a dead father." FixQuotes. February 8, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-may-neither-choose-who-i-would-nor-refuse-who-i-27538/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I may neither choose who I would, nor refuse who I dislike; so is the will of a living daughter curbed by the will of a dead father." FixQuotes, 8 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-may-neither-choose-who-i-would-nor-refuse-who-i-27538/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.










