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Fatherhood Quote by William Shakespeare

"I may neither choose who I would, nor refuse who I dislike; so is the will of a living daughter curbed by the will of a dead father"

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A teenage girl, still breathing, is being governed like property by a man who isn’t. That’s the chill Shakespeare lands with the blunt antithesis: “living daughter” versus “dead father.” The line isn’t merely complaint; it’s an anatomy of patriarchy at its most perverse, where authority outlives the body and turns grief into governance. The speaker’s verbs are tellingly passive and constrained: she can’t “choose,” can’t “refuse.” Desire is reduced to administrative options, and even those are denied.

The intent is double-edged. On the surface, it’s a daughter lamenting arranged marriage, the familiar early modern plot engine. Underneath, Shakespeare is staging how women are forced to internalize coercion as fate. “So is the will…” carries the cadence of a proverb, as if she’s been trained to narrate her own dispossession in the language of inevitability. The father’s “will” is both motive and legal instrument: inheritance law and household command fused into one word. He doesn’t just want; he legislates from the grave.

Contextually, Shakespeare is writing for a society where a daughter’s marriage is economics, alliance, and reputation management. The cruelty here is bureaucratic, not melodramatic. The father isn’t a villain twirling a mustache; he’s a system, embalmed. By making the afterlife of male authority literal, Shakespeare exposes the trap: even death, the great equalizer, doesn’t equalize. It just changes the paperwork.

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Source
Verified source: The Merchant of Venice (William Shakespeare, 1600)
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But this reasoning is not in the fashion to choose me a husband. O me, the word 'choose'! I may neither choose who I would nor refuse who I dislike; so is the will of a living daughter curb'd by the will of a dead father. Is it not hard, Nerissa, that I cannot choose one, nor refuse none? (Act 1, Scene 2 (Portia speaking)). This line is spoken by Portia in Shakespeare’s play The Merchant of Venice, Act 1, Scene 2. The earliest publication of the play is the first quarto (Q1) printed in 1600. The play was entered in the Stationers’ Register on July 22, 1598, and the Folger Shakespeare Library notes it was first printed in 1600 as a quarto. The wording often circulated as a shortened standalone quote (omitting the surrounding sentences), but the primary-source text includes the full passage above.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Shakespeare, William. (2026, February 8). I may neither choose who I would, nor refuse who I dislike; so is the will of a living daughter curbed by the will of a dead father. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-may-neither-choose-who-i-would-nor-refuse-who-i-27538/

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Shakespeare, William. "I may neither choose who I would, nor refuse who I dislike; so is the will of a living daughter curbed by the will of a dead father." FixQuotes. February 8, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-may-neither-choose-who-i-would-nor-refuse-who-i-27538/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I may neither choose who I would, nor refuse who I dislike; so is the will of a living daughter curbed by the will of a dead father." FixQuotes, 8 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-may-neither-choose-who-i-would-nor-refuse-who-i-27538/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.

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William Shakespeare (April 26, 1564 - April 23, 1616) was a Dramatist from England.

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