"I never forgive, but I always forget"
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For Arthur Balfour, a late-Victorian and Edwardian operator whose career moved through Ireland, empire, and party intrigue, the line reads less like a personal quirk than a governing philosophy. "Never forgive" signals a refusal to validate anyone else's grievance or grant reconciliation on their terms. It's a warning: you won't get a cathartic handshake, a public mending, or a rewritten narrative. "Always forget" then undercuts the threat with a politician's pragmatism. He can drop a feud the moment it stops being useful, not because he's generous, but because he's busy - or because memory is a liability in a world built on shifting alliances.
The subtext is almost bureaucratically cruel: I won't carry your offense as an emotional burden, but I also won't perform mercy. It captures a certain elite British temperament of the era, where understatement doubles as dominance. The wit lies in the inversion of what we expect from civility: the humane act (forgiveness) is rejected, the convenient one (forgetting) embraced. It's not absolution; it's erasure.
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| Topic | Forgiveness |
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Balfour, Arthur. (2026, January 15). I never forgive, but I always forget. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-never-forgive-but-i-always-forget-74573/
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Balfour, Arthur. "I never forgive, but I always forget." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-never-forgive-but-i-always-forget-74573/.
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"I never forgive, but I always forget." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-never-forgive-but-i-always-forget-74573/. Accessed 6 Feb. 2026.






