"I never knew whether to pity or congratulate a man on coming to his senses"
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The pity is obvious: to come to one’s senses is to lose something. Illusions, romantic momentum, the delicious permission of being slightly deluded. In Thackeray’s world, that loss isn’t abstract. His novels are crowded with people propped up by vanity, money, and self-deception, and “sense” often arrives as the bill. It’s the hangover after the party of ambition. You realize the marriage isn’t a fairytale, the career isn’t a destiny, the class ladder isn’t a moral ladder. That recognition can look like maturity, but it also looks like narrowing.
The congratulation is just as barbed. Yes, sanity is a win - but it’s a win that usually comes late, after damage has been done, when the cost of clarity has already been paid. Thackeray’s subtext is that society rewards the appearance of sense more than the thing itself, and that becoming “sensible” can mean surrendering to the respectable compromises you once mocked.
The genius here is the unresolved choice: pity or congratulate. Thackeray refuses the reader the comfort of certainty, implying that reason is not a pure virtue but a trade-off - an exit from illusion, and an entrance into a colder, sharper kind of truth.
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Thackeray, William Makepeace. (2026, January 18). I never knew whether to pity or congratulate a man on coming to his senses. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-never-knew-whether-to-pity-or-congratulate-a-15105/
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"I never knew whether to pity or congratulate a man on coming to his senses." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-never-knew-whether-to-pity-or-congratulate-a-15105/. Accessed 9 Feb. 2026.












