"I never yet heard man or woman much abused that I was not inclined to think the better of them, and to transfer the suspicion or dislike to the one who found pleasure in pointing out the defects of another"
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The subtext is shrewdly psychological. Public condemnation often functions as a shortcut to intimacy within a group: we bond by agreeing on who’s ridiculous, who’s corrupt, who deserves it. Porter refuses that cheap cohesion. Her instinct to “think the better” of the abused isn’t naive contrarianism; it’s a recognition that reputation is a battleground where power, envy, and class anxiety dress up as moral clarity. In a culture that relied heavily on hearsay and “character” as currency - especially for women, whose social survival could be ruined by insinuation - this is more than good manners. It’s a critique of an economy of judgment.
Porter also threads a moral needle: she doesn’t deny defects exist. She questions the spectator sport of defect-spotting, the little thrill of being the one who notices, who names, who diminishes. The rhetorical move is subtle but bracing: distrust not the imperfect person, but the person who needs imperfection as a hobby.
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| Topic | Kindness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Porter, Jane. (2026, January 15). I never yet heard man or woman much abused that I was not inclined to think the better of them, and to transfer the suspicion or dislike to the one who found pleasure in pointing out the defects of another. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-never-yet-heard-man-or-woman-much-abused-that-i-149241/
Chicago Style
Porter, Jane. "I never yet heard man or woman much abused that I was not inclined to think the better of them, and to transfer the suspicion or dislike to the one who found pleasure in pointing out the defects of another." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-never-yet-heard-man-or-woman-much-abused-that-i-149241/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I never yet heard man or woman much abused that I was not inclined to think the better of them, and to transfer the suspicion or dislike to the one who found pleasure in pointing out the defects of another." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-never-yet-heard-man-or-woman-much-abused-that-i-149241/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.











