"I read and walked for miles at night along the beach, writing bad blank verse and searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that that person could be me"
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The line works because it lets you feel the seduction before it exposes the cost. “Searching endlessly for someone wonderful” isn’t just youthful longing; it’s outsourcing agency. The beach is a perfect setting for that fantasy: liminal, empty, full of projection. Night turns the desired stranger into a silhouette you can’t scrutinize too closely. Even the self-deprecating “bad blank verse” matters. It signals a young writer doing the embarrassing, necessary reps of becoming, while still imagining legitimacy will be conferred by an external witness - a lover, a mentor, a gatekeeper.
Quindlen’s subtext is feminist without waving a flag: she’s diagnosing a cultural script that teaches especially young women to treat their own ambition and loneliness as waiting rooms. The final sentence lands like a gentle indictment. “It never crossed my mind” isn’t ignorance so much as conditioning; it implies a whole society has been whispering that the protagonist is always someone else.
As a journalist, Quindlen’s power is the calibrated clarity: one personal memory turned into a social x-ray. The heartbreak isn’t that no one arrived out of the dark. It’s how long it took to realize she was already there.
Quote Details
| Topic | Self-Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Quindlen, Anna. (2026, January 18). I read and walked for miles at night along the beach, writing bad blank verse and searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that that person could be me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-read-and-walked-for-miles-at-night-along-the-1306/
Chicago Style
Quindlen, Anna. "I read and walked for miles at night along the beach, writing bad blank verse and searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that that person could be me." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-read-and-walked-for-miles-at-night-along-the-1306/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I read and walked for miles at night along the beach, writing bad blank verse and searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that that person could be me." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-read-and-walked-for-miles-at-night-along-the-1306/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.



