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Success Quote by Nikki Giovanni

"I really don't think life is about the I-could-have-beens. Life is only about the I-tried-to-do. I don't mind the failure but I can't imagine that I'd forgive myself if I didn't try"

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Giovanni doesn’t romanticize possibility; she indicts it. “I-could-have-beens” is her shorthand for a seductive American pastime: treating your unlived life like a more glamorous parallel universe you were somehow cheated out of. The phrase has a childish sing-song quality, and that’s the point. It exposes how self-pity can dress itself up as imagination. Against that, she offers a tougher, cleaner metric: “I-tried-to-do.” Not achievement, not destiny, not even success - just the record of agency.

The turn from abstract (“life”) to intimate (“I can’t imagine that I’d forgive myself”) is the engine here. Giovanni frames regret not as a social emotion but a private moral debt. Failure becomes almost neutral - a cost of being alive - while not trying is a betrayal of the self you have to live with after the applause and excuses are gone. It’s an ethic built for survival: you can recover from defeat, but you can’t negotiate with your own cowardice.

Context matters because Giovanni’s work has always pushed back against narratives that shrink Black life into caution, endurance, or apology. Coming of age in the civil rights era and writing through decades of cultural churn, she understands that “trying” isn’t just personal grit; it’s a refusal to be pre-edited by fear, by racism, by the polite expectation to stay in your lane. The quote lands like a mantra, but it’s really a challenge: stop collecting hypotheticals and start collecting risks.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Giovanni, Nikki. (2026, January 16). I really don't think life is about the I-could-have-beens. Life is only about the I-tried-to-do. I don't mind the failure but I can't imagine that I'd forgive myself if I didn't try. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-really-dont-think-life-is-about-the-90090/

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Giovanni, Nikki. "I really don't think life is about the I-could-have-beens. Life is only about the I-tried-to-do. I don't mind the failure but I can't imagine that I'd forgive myself if I didn't try." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-really-dont-think-life-is-about-the-90090/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I really don't think life is about the I-could-have-beens. Life is only about the I-tried-to-do. I don't mind the failure but I can't imagine that I'd forgive myself if I didn't try." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-really-dont-think-life-is-about-the-90090/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.

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Nikki Giovanni

Nikki Giovanni (born June 7, 1943) is a Poet from USA.

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