"I really would rather have gone to New York, since all my training had been in theater, but I didn't have the guts to go there alone. I knew only one person in New York, and that was a man. What I needed was a woman. That's the way Southern girls thought"
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The key line is “What I needed was a woman.” It’s practical (a roommate, a guide, a buffer) and also a confession of how deeply surveillance shaped young women’s mobility. A male contact in a big city could trigger gossip, danger, or the presumption of impropriety; a female contact could launder the whole venture into something respectable. Fletcher’s last sentence, “That’s the way Southern girls thought,” lands with a quiet, unsentimental bite. She isn’t romanticizing Southern femininity; she’s naming the inherited mental furniture: caution mistaken for virtue, dependence sold as decorum.
Subtextually, the quote highlights how “choice” gets narrowed before it ever looks like a fork in the road. The theater-to-New-York pipeline existed, but for women like Fletcher, it came with an extra toll: you didn’t just need talent and training. You needed cover.
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| Topic | Friendship |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Fletcher, Louise. (2026, January 16). I really would rather have gone to New York, since all my training had been in theater, but I didn't have the guts to go there alone. I knew only one person in New York, and that was a man. What I needed was a woman. That's the way Southern girls thought. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-really-would-rather-have-gone-to-new-york-since-107895/
Chicago Style
Fletcher, Louise. "I really would rather have gone to New York, since all my training had been in theater, but I didn't have the guts to go there alone. I knew only one person in New York, and that was a man. What I needed was a woman. That's the way Southern girls thought." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-really-would-rather-have-gone-to-new-york-since-107895/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I really would rather have gone to New York, since all my training had been in theater, but I didn't have the guts to go there alone. I knew only one person in New York, and that was a man. What I needed was a woman. That's the way Southern girls thought." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-really-would-rather-have-gone-to-new-york-since-107895/. Accessed 22 Feb. 2026.




