"I recently saw the movie about Ray Charles, and there's a scene where he falls down and the mother doesn't help him. She says, I don't want anyone to treat you like a cripple. I've fallen down before, and Molly will say, get up and just go"
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Teri Garr reaches for a pop-cultural shorthand - Ray, the biopic, the tough-love mother - because it instantly codes a whole philosophy of survival without sounding like a manifesto. The scene she cites is brutal: a child in pain, a parent withholding comfort. Garr isn’t endorsing cruelty; she’s pointing to a kind of training regime for dignity, one that treats pity as its own quiet disability. The line “I don’t want anyone to treat you like a cripple” is less about bodies than about social roles: the moment you’re cast as fragile, the world starts negotiating your agency away.
Her pivot to Molly makes the point intimate and current. “I’ve fallen down before” lands with extra weight given Garr’s public life with multiple sclerosis, a condition that makes “falling down” both literal and loaded. In that light, Molly’s “get up and just go” isn’t a motivational poster; it’s an adaptive script for maintaining normalcy when your body is unpredictable and other people’s sympathy can become a trap. It’s also a small corrective to celebrity narratives that reward vulnerability only when it’s performative.
The subtext is a refusal to be reduced. Garr frames independence as something rehearsed in the everyday, not granted by inspiration. There’s affection in the bluntness: help, in this worldview, isn’t doing it for you; it’s assuming you still can. That’s a harsh ethic, but it’s also a way of insisting on personhood when the culture keeps trying to hand you a softer, smaller part.
Her pivot to Molly makes the point intimate and current. “I’ve fallen down before” lands with extra weight given Garr’s public life with multiple sclerosis, a condition that makes “falling down” both literal and loaded. In that light, Molly’s “get up and just go” isn’t a motivational poster; it’s an adaptive script for maintaining normalcy when your body is unpredictable and other people’s sympathy can become a trap. It’s also a small corrective to celebrity narratives that reward vulnerability only when it’s performative.
The subtext is a refusal to be reduced. Garr frames independence as something rehearsed in the everyday, not granted by inspiration. There’s affection in the bluntness: help, in this worldview, isn’t doing it for you; it’s assuming you still can. That’s a harsh ethic, but it’s also a way of insisting on personhood when the culture keeps trying to hand you a softer, smaller part.
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