"I refuse to stand up in front of a rabbi and my friends and the woman I love - who I will tell you I can love with all my heart - and promise she will be the only one I will ever have until the day I die. That's a lie"
About this Quote
The intent is blunt: to frame fidelity not as moral maturity, but as a dishonest performance forced by tradition. Calling it “a lie” flips the usual accusation. In his telling, the cheater isn’t the villain; the institution is, because it demands certainty about a future no one can honestly guarantee. That’s a rock-star ethic of authenticity, but it’s also a convenient bit of moral jiu-jitsu: rebranding desire as integrity and commitment as hypocrisy.
Context matters. Simmons comes out of a long era of male celebrity in which sexual access was part of the job description and “family values” were a pose for press junkets. By anchoring his refusal in religious ritual, he isn’t just rejecting marriage; he’s rejecting the social machine that turns private intimacy into public contract. The subtext: don’t ask me to be a different product than the one you’re already buying.
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| Topic | Wedding |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Simmons, Gene. (2026, January 17). I refuse to stand up in front of a rabbi and my friends and the woman I love - who I will tell you I can love with all my heart - and promise she will be the only one I will ever have until the day I die. That's a lie. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-refuse-to-stand-up-in-front-of-a-rabbi-and-my-55152/
Chicago Style
Simmons, Gene. "I refuse to stand up in front of a rabbi and my friends and the woman I love - who I will tell you I can love with all my heart - and promise she will be the only one I will ever have until the day I die. That's a lie." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-refuse-to-stand-up-in-front-of-a-rabbi-and-my-55152/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I refuse to stand up in front of a rabbi and my friends and the woman I love - who I will tell you I can love with all my heart - and promise she will be the only one I will ever have until the day I die. That's a lie." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-refuse-to-stand-up-in-front-of-a-rabbi-and-my-55152/. Accessed 25 Feb. 2026.











