"I refused to beat my head against stone, of course"
About this Quote
The intent feels defensive in the best way: a boundary set after learning how easily the industry turns effort into a treadmill. Actors are trained to endure rejection, to keep “pushing.” Lom’s line pushes back against that mythology. It suggests he understands the difference between dedication and banging into immovable systems - casting biases, typecasting, gatekeepers, timing, geography - the kinds of “stone” you can’t charm, outwork, or out-wait.
The subtext is also about dignity. “Refused” implies agency: he’s choosing not to be reshaped by an indifferent surface. That makes the quote quietly radical in a field that often rewards self-erasure. It’s a reminder that career narratives are usually edited into heroic perseverance after the fact. Lom hints at the unglamorous truth: sometimes the smartest move is to stop bleeding on the wall, pivot, and preserve your craft for a place where it can actually land.
Quote Details
| Topic | Letting Go |
|---|---|
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lom, Herbert. (2026, January 15). I refused to beat my head against stone, of course. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-refused-to-beat-my-head-against-stone-of-course-162901/
Chicago Style
Lom, Herbert. "I refused to beat my head against stone, of course." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-refused-to-beat-my-head-against-stone-of-course-162901/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I refused to beat my head against stone, of course." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-refused-to-beat-my-head-against-stone-of-course-162901/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.




