"I saw my mother in a different light. We all need to do that. You have to be displaced from what's comfortable and routine, and then you get to see things with fresh eyes, with new eyes"
About this Quote
The key verb is “displaced.” Tan isn’t selling reinvention as self-help gloss; she’s naming the small violence required to break a script you didn’t know you were performing. Comfort and routine aren’t just habits, they’re narrative systems: they tell you who your mother is, who you are, what’s normal, what’s “just the way it is.” Displacement interrupts the story. That interruption is where empathy and complexity sneak in. You stop seeing a parent as a fixed role - caretaker, critic, immigrant emblem, source of trauma - and glimpse a person with a past that doesn’t orbit yours.
Context matters: Tan’s work is steeped in intergenerational misunderstanding, cultural translation, and the way daughters inherit not only love but unresolved histories. “Fresh eyes, with new eyes” is a purposeful redundancy, like insisting the point twice because it’s hard to live, not hard to understand. She’s arguing that insight isn’t a moral achievement; it’s a logistical one. Change the setting, and the character reveals herself.
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| Topic | Mother |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Tan, Amy. (2026, January 15). I saw my mother in a different light. We all need to do that. You have to be displaced from what's comfortable and routine, and then you get to see things with fresh eyes, with new eyes. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-saw-my-mother-in-a-different-light-we-all-need-42992/
Chicago Style
Tan, Amy. "I saw my mother in a different light. We all need to do that. You have to be displaced from what's comfortable and routine, and then you get to see things with fresh eyes, with new eyes." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-saw-my-mother-in-a-different-light-we-all-need-42992/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I saw my mother in a different light. We all need to do that. You have to be displaced from what's comfortable and routine, and then you get to see things with fresh eyes, with new eyes." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-saw-my-mother-in-a-different-light-we-all-need-42992/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.








