"I think that if you idealise someone for so long, they can only disappoint and I wouldn't want to be disappointed by those people"
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Celebrity culture runs on a quiet con: the public is invited to treat strangers as saints, then act shocked when they turn out to be human. Jane Horrocks punctures that fantasy with a kind of practical self-defense. The line isn’t starry-eyed disillusionment; it’s preemptive boundary-setting. “If you idealise someone for so long, they can only disappoint” works because it exposes idealisation as a rigged game. The pedestal is already a trap: it inflates expectations beyond what any real person can deliver, then converts ordinary imperfection into betrayal.
Horrocks’s phrasing is revealingly careful. She doesn’t say people will disappoint; she says they “can only” disappoint. The inevitability is the point. Idealisation isn’t admiration, it’s a distortion that demands an impossible performance. And when she adds, “I wouldn’t want to be disappointed by those people,” the subtext shifts from critique of fans to a personal ethic: don’t grant emotional authority to someone you don’t actually know. It’s a refusal to outsource meaning, validation, or identity to a public figure just because they’re famous.
Coming from an actress, the context matters. Performers trade in illusion for a living; they know how easily an audience confuses a role, a press image, or a curated persona with a whole character. Horrocks is quietly insisting on a healthier contract between artist and admirer: appreciate the work, keep the human at a realistic distance, and you’ll spare both sides the ugliness that arrives when worship turns into grievance.
Horrocks’s phrasing is revealingly careful. She doesn’t say people will disappoint; she says they “can only” disappoint. The inevitability is the point. Idealisation isn’t admiration, it’s a distortion that demands an impossible performance. And when she adds, “I wouldn’t want to be disappointed by those people,” the subtext shifts from critique of fans to a personal ethic: don’t grant emotional authority to someone you don’t actually know. It’s a refusal to outsource meaning, validation, or identity to a public figure just because they’re famous.
Coming from an actress, the context matters. Performers trade in illusion for a living; they know how easily an audience confuses a role, a press image, or a curated persona with a whole character. Horrocks is quietly insisting on a healthier contract between artist and admirer: appreciate the work, keep the human at a realistic distance, and you’ll spare both sides the ugliness that arrives when worship turns into grievance.
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| Topic | Heartbreak |
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