"I think that if you idealise someone for so long, they can only disappoint and I wouldn't want to be disappointed by those people"
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Horrocks’s phrasing is revealingly careful. She doesn’t say people will disappoint; she says they “can only” disappoint. The inevitability is the point. Idealisation isn’t admiration, it’s a distortion that demands an impossible performance. And when she adds, “I wouldn’t want to be disappointed by those people,” the subtext shifts from critique of fans to a personal ethic: don’t grant emotional authority to someone you don’t actually know. It’s a refusal to outsource meaning, validation, or identity to a public figure just because they’re famous.
Coming from an actress, the context matters. Performers trade in illusion for a living; they know how easily an audience confuses a role, a press image, or a curated persona with a whole character. Horrocks is quietly insisting on a healthier contract between artist and admirer: appreciate the work, keep the human at a realistic distance, and you’ll spare both sides the ugliness that arrives when worship turns into grievance.
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| Topic | Heartbreak |
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Horrocks, Jane. (2026, January 16). I think that if you idealise someone for so long, they can only disappoint and I wouldn't want to be disappointed by those people. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-that-if-you-idealise-someone-for-so-long-121652/
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Horrocks, Jane. "I think that if you idealise someone for so long, they can only disappoint and I wouldn't want to be disappointed by those people." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-that-if-you-idealise-someone-for-so-long-121652/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I think that if you idealise someone for so long, they can only disappoint and I wouldn't want to be disappointed by those people." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-that-if-you-idealise-someone-for-so-long-121652/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.







