"I think that public service is tough on a family - no ifs, ands, buts about it. I have my own personal wishes, but they're not always front and center"
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The second sentence is where the real negotiation happens. "I have my own personal wishes" is a careful, almost diplomatic admission that she has desires that might clash with the public script. But she immediately reins them in: "they're not always front and center". The phrase isn't "they don't matter"; it's "they can't lead". That distinction is the subtext of someone who has spent a lifetime managing competing identities - journalist, Kennedy-adjacent American aristocracy, spouse inside a political machine. It's also a subtle appeal for empathy without asking for indulgence: she frames compromise as a professional reality, not a personal tragedy.
Context matters: Shriver's public life has been built in the shadow of institutions that demand composure - politics, legacy, media. The quote reads like a boundary-setting exercise done in public: she acknowledges the cost, asserts she has an inner life, and signals that duty still gets the right of way. In a culture that prizes "having it all", she's describing the actual trade: you have it all, just not all at once, and not on your own terms.
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| Topic | Family |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Shriver, Maria. (2026, January 16). I think that public service is tough on a family - no ifs, ands, buts about it. I have my own personal wishes, but they're not always front and center. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-that-public-service-is-tough-on-a-family-104062/
Chicago Style
Shriver, Maria. "I think that public service is tough on a family - no ifs, ands, buts about it. I have my own personal wishes, but they're not always front and center." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-that-public-service-is-tough-on-a-family-104062/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I think that public service is tough on a family - no ifs, ands, buts about it. I have my own personal wishes, but they're not always front and center." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-that-public-service-is-tough-on-a-family-104062/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.





