"I think there are two ways to depict a family. One is what it's really like, and one is what the audience would like it to be. Between you and me, I think the second one is what I would prefer"
About this Quote
The line is doing two jobs at once. On the surface, it’s a harmless confession about taste. Underneath, it’s a defense of escapism that anticipates every prestige-era argument about “relatability” versus “truth.” Spelling’s “between you and me” builds intimacy while also disarming criticism: if he’s already admitted the compromise, what’s left to accuse him of? The slyness is that he doesn’t apologize. He normalizes the idea that audience desire is a creative north star, even if it means sanding off the jagged edges of actual family life - conflict that doesn’t resolve in 44 minutes, love that’s conditional, money that doesn’t magically appear.
Context matters: Spelling helped define glossy, aspiration-forward TV (from soap operas to prime-time dramas) at a moment when broadcast networks needed mass appeal and advertisers wanted safe adjacency. His preferred family isn’t “fake” so much as strategically curated: a narrative product designed to soothe, flatter, and keep you watching. The quote reads like an accidental manifesto for television as wish-fulfillment, and a reminder that what we call “family values” on screen is often just audience management with better lighting.
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| Topic | Family |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Spelling, Aaron. (2026, January 17). I think there are two ways to depict a family. One is what it's really like, and one is what the audience would like it to be. Between you and me, I think the second one is what I would prefer. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-there-are-two-ways-to-depict-a-family-one-45923/
Chicago Style
Spelling, Aaron. "I think there are two ways to depict a family. One is what it's really like, and one is what the audience would like it to be. Between you and me, I think the second one is what I would prefer." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-there-are-two-ways-to-depict-a-family-one-45923/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I think there are two ways to depict a family. One is what it's really like, and one is what the audience would like it to be. Between you and me, I think the second one is what I would prefer." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-there-are-two-ways-to-depict-a-family-one-45923/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.








