"I think we still believe that ambition is for boys"
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The sentence is doing two things at once. On the surface, it’s a diagnosis of gendered expectations: ambition gets treated as a boyish appetite, while girls are trained to translate desire into something more palatable - diligence, helpfulness, “passion,” being “supportive.” Underneath, it’s also a critique of how language launders inequality. We don’t say “girls shouldn’t want things”; we say they should want the right kinds of things, in the right proportions, without appearing “too much.” Ambition is allowed only when it’s softened into self-improvement, or made communal, or paired with a constant performance of likability.
As a novelist who has spent a career interrogating how stories make identities, Winterson is pointing at the plot structure we keep recycling. Boys get bildungsromans: quests, hunger, upward motion. Girls get moral education: restraint, accommodation, romantic resolution. The cultural context here isn’t just boardrooms; it’s the narratives that teach us what a “good” woman looks like, and how quickly “driven” becomes “difficult” when the person driving is female. The line works because it’s small, plain, and devastatingly familiar.
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| Topic | Equality |
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Winterson, Jeanette. (2026, January 17). I think we still believe that ambition is for boys. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-we-still-believe-that-ambition-is-for-boys-69373/
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Winterson, Jeanette. "I think we still believe that ambition is for boys." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-we-still-believe-that-ambition-is-for-boys-69373/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I think we still believe that ambition is for boys." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-we-still-believe-that-ambition-is-for-boys-69373/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









