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Daily Inspiration Quote by David McCallum

"I think your life is governed not by the bricks or mortar around you, it's governed by who holds your hand and who spits in your eye"

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McCallum takes a swing at the respectable myth that our lives are primarily shaped by settings: the right neighborhood, the right school, the right square footage. “Bricks or mortar” is shorthand for all the status props we’re taught to treat as destiny. Then he yanks the camera back to something messier and harder to monetize: human contact. Who steadies you, who humiliates you, who gets close enough to do either.

The line works because it’s physically intimate. A hand to hold isn’t an abstract “support system”; it’s a tactile promise in a moment of fear or fatigue. And “spits in your eye” isn’t generic adversity; it’s targeted contempt, the kind that leaves you blinking, doubting your own dignity. McCallum frames power not as policy or architecture but as proximity. The people closest to you have the capacity to recalibrate your sense of self, for better or worse, and that’s the real governance.

Coming from an actor best known for inhabiting authority and restraint on screen, it reads like a veteran’s realism about what actually moves a life’s plot. Fame, sets, and scenery change; what lingers are alliances and injuries. The subtext is quietly political, too: we love to blame structures when it’s comfortable and celebrate individual grit when it’s flattering, but McCallum points to the interpersonal middle ground where most damage and most rescue happen. Your world isn’t just built; it’s handled.

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McCallum, David. (2026, January 15). I think your life is governed not by the bricks or mortar around you, it's governed by who holds your hand and who spits in your eye. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-your-life-is-governed-not-by-the-bricks-140789/

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McCallum, David. "I think your life is governed not by the bricks or mortar around you, it's governed by who holds your hand and who spits in your eye." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-your-life-is-governed-not-by-the-bricks-140789/.

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"I think your life is governed not by the bricks or mortar around you, it's governed by who holds your hand and who spits in your eye." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-your-life-is-governed-not-by-the-bricks-140789/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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David McCallum (born September 19, 1933) is a Actor from Scotland.

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