"I try to remember, as I hear about friends getting engaged, that it's not about the ring. It's a grave thing, getting married"
About this Quote
Calling marriage “a grave thing” is an intentionally old-fashioned turn of phrase that resists the lightness of modern wedding discourse. “Grave” doesn’t mean joyless; it means weighted, binding, real. It pushes against the froth of bridal branding and the fantasy that commitment is primarily aesthetic. The subtext is a warning: you can want the symbol without wanting the obligations it represents, and society is set up to reward that confusion.
There’s also a celebrity-specific edge. Paltrow’s world is saturated with rings as status objects and weddings as spectacle, yet her emphasis is almost anti-spectacle: the real event isn’t the proposal photo, it’s the decades after. The quote reads as a small act of refusal, a reminder that intimacy isn’t a purchase and permanence isn’t a vibe.
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| Topic | Engagement |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Paltrow, Gwyneth. (2026, January 16). I try to remember, as I hear about friends getting engaged, that it's not about the ring. It's a grave thing, getting married. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-try-to-remember-as-i-hear-about-friends-getting-82661/
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Paltrow, Gwyneth. "I try to remember, as I hear about friends getting engaged, that it's not about the ring. It's a grave thing, getting married." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-try-to-remember-as-i-hear-about-friends-getting-82661/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I try to remember, as I hear about friends getting engaged, that it's not about the ring. It's a grave thing, getting married." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-try-to-remember-as-i-hear-about-friends-getting-82661/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.









