"I understand how hard it is to talk to people about MS. You don't want pity or random advice"
About this Quote
The quote is built around a quiet, unsentimental truth about conversation. When people hear “MS,” they reach for tools that are really defenses: pity to prove they’re compassionate, advice to prove they’re useful. Both can be invasive. “Random advice” is a daggered phrase, because it names the way strangers and acquaintances treat diagnosis as a prompt for folk medicine, diet fixes, miracle supplements, someone’s cousin’s story. It’s care that doubles as a power move: if I can solve you, I don’t have to sit with your uncertainty.
Coming from an actress, the subtext sharpens. Garr’s career depended on timing, control, and being legible to an audience; MS introduces unpredictability, and the public gaze can turn personal health into public property. She’s advocating for a third mode of response: respect without performance. Listen without auditioning to be the Most Supportive Person in the Room. That restraint is the real empathy she’s pointing toward.
Quote Details
| Topic | Health |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Garr, Teri. (2026, January 16). I understand how hard it is to talk to people about MS. You don't want pity or random advice. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-understand-how-hard-it-is-to-talk-to-people-82898/
Chicago Style
Garr, Teri. "I understand how hard it is to talk to people about MS. You don't want pity or random advice." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-understand-how-hard-it-is-to-talk-to-people-82898/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I understand how hard it is to talk to people about MS. You don't want pity or random advice." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-understand-how-hard-it-is-to-talk-to-people-82898/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.
