"I visited my father for the full ten years that he was in prison, so we already had a deep and loving relationship, and remembered our mother at those times"
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The subtext is partly defensive. Sheppard doesn’t say he maintained a relationship; he says it was “already” deep and loving. That “already” reads like an answer to an unspoken accusation: that imprisonment must have produced distance, bitterness, suspicion. He preempts the cultural script that a jailed father becomes either a monster or a ghost. Instead, the relationship is treated as continuous, even if the setting is distorted.
Then there’s the triangulation of memory: “remembered our mother at those times.” It’s a small clause that reframes visiting from an act of dutiful loyalty into a ritual of shared grief and shared identity. Prison visits become a temporary household, a place where the absent parent is actively kept present. In a single sentence, Sheppard shifts the moral center away from the institution and back to the family, suggesting that punishment can confine a body without successfully dismantling a lineage.
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Sheppard, Sam. (2026, January 15). I visited my father for the full ten years that he was in prison, so we already had a deep and loving relationship, and remembered our mother at those times. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-visited-my-father-for-the-full-ten-years-that-162657/
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Sheppard, Sam. "I visited my father for the full ten years that he was in prison, so we already had a deep and loving relationship, and remembered our mother at those times." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-visited-my-father-for-the-full-ten-years-that-162657/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I visited my father for the full ten years that he was in prison, so we already had a deep and loving relationship, and remembered our mother at those times." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-visited-my-father-for-the-full-ten-years-that-162657/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





