"I want people to love me, but it's not going to hurt me if they don't"
About this Quote
The intent is disarmingly practical. Barrymore isn’t selling stoic indifference, she’s renegotiating the terms of attachment. Love from “people” (the public, the industry, the internet swarm) is framed as a nice-to-have, not a life support system. That matters coming from an actress whose persona has long been built on openness: the approachable star, the confessional talk-show warmth, the sense that you could actually be friends with her. Openness invites affection, but it also invites entitlement. This sentence is a way of keeping the door unlocked without letting strangers move in.
The subtext is recovery language without the lecture: I’m allowed to want validation, and I’m also allowed to survive without it. In a culture that treats likability as women’s rent, especially in Hollywood, that second clause reads like a quiet rebellion. She’s acknowledging the hunger while refusing to hand it the steering wheel.
Quote Details
| Topic | Self-Love |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Barrymore, Drew. (2026, January 17). I want people to love me, but it's not going to hurt me if they don't. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-want-people-to-love-me-but-its-not-going-to-51144/
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Barrymore, Drew. "I want people to love me, but it's not going to hurt me if they don't." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-want-people-to-love-me-but-its-not-going-to-51144/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I want people to love me, but it's not going to hurt me if they don't." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-want-people-to-love-me-but-its-not-going-to-51144/. Accessed 4 Mar. 2026.









