"I want you to take away the hope because that's the thing that's killing me"
About this Quote
As an actor’s line, it works because it sounds like what people say when they’ve run out of language for pain and start improvising survival. The subtext is less “I’m giving up” than “I can’t keep performing optimism for you.” Hope, in this framing, becomes a social contract: the sufferer is expected to keep believing so everyone else can keep coping. Leary undercuts that expectation with a plea that is at once self-protective and accusatory. If you keep offering me hope, you’re also keeping me suspended in anticipation, in the perpetual near-miss that turns disappointment into a routine.
Culturally, it lands in that late-20th-century, post-sentimental register Leary often inhabits: impatience with pieties, a suspicion of inspirational talk, a preference for the sharp edge over the soft landing. The line’s power is its inversion. Instead of hope saving someone, it’s hope prolonging the suffering by refusing to let the story end. The cruel twist is that hope is framed as something another person can “take away,” which hints at dependency, manipulation, or a relationship where emotional pain is being managed like inventory.
Quote Details
| Topic | Hope |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
| Cite | Cite this Quote |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Leary, Denis. (n.d.). I want you to take away the hope because that's the thing that's killing me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-want-you-to-take-away-the-hope-because-thats-121978/
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Leary, Denis. "I want you to take away the hope because that's the thing that's killing me." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-want-you-to-take-away-the-hope-because-thats-121978/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I want you to take away the hope because that's the thing that's killing me." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-want-you-to-take-away-the-hope-because-thats-121978/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.














