"I was brought up by two people who just said, Whatever it is you're interested in, go do it. There is no winning or losing. You find out when you do it what the experience is"
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“There is no winning or losing” lands as both parenting philosophy and industry survival tactic. For an actor, especially one who grew up inside Hollywood’s audition economy, “winning” is a trap: you can deliver, get passed over, and still have done excellent work. Russell reframes the only controllable variable as the experience itself. That’s not naïve optimism; it’s a practical way to stay sane in a field where outcomes are often arbitrary, political, or simply taste-based.
The subtext is also about permission. Two adults telling a kid, “Whatever it is you’re interested in” is a vote of confidence that curiosity is enough reason to act. No gatekeeping, no demand that the interest be prestigious or profitable. The last line, “You find out when you do it,” rejects armchair certainty. It’s anti-overthinking, anti-fear, anti-preemptive self-rejection.
Culturally, it reads like a counter-program to performance anxiety: a reminder that identity isn’t built by declaring intentions; it’s built by showing up, trying things, and letting the work teach you what you actually want.
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| Topic | Parenting |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Russell, Kurt. (2026, January 16). I was brought up by two people who just said, Whatever it is you're interested in, go do it. There is no winning or losing. You find out when you do it what the experience is. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-brought-up-by-two-people-who-just-said-84342/
Chicago Style
Russell, Kurt. "I was brought up by two people who just said, Whatever it is you're interested in, go do it. There is no winning or losing. You find out when you do it what the experience is." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-brought-up-by-two-people-who-just-said-84342/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I was brought up by two people who just said, Whatever it is you're interested in, go do it. There is no winning or losing. You find out when you do it what the experience is." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-brought-up-by-two-people-who-just-said-84342/. Accessed 17 Feb. 2026.




