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Creativity Quote by Thomas Dolby

"I was desperate really for people not to accuse me of coldness. It was taboo"

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Desperation is doing a lot of work here, because it turns “coldness” from a personality trait into a public charge. Thomas Dolby isn’t confessing to being emotionally distant; he’s describing the panic of being misread in a culture that polices warmth, especially from men who make cerebral, tech-forward pop. “Cold” is the oldest shorthand for art that looks designed rather than bled out. For an early-’80s musician associated with synths, studios, and circuitry, the accusation wasn’t just about temperament; it was a referendum on authenticity.

“It was taboo” sharpens the stakes. Taboo isn’t “unpopular,” it’s socially punishable. Dolby frames emotional legibility as a requirement, not a choice: you must appear approachable, you must signal the right kind of feeling, or you’ll be exiled from the pop conversation. The subtext is that audiences and gatekeepers wanted their futuristic soundtracks delivered by someone who still fit an old romantic script. If the music is machine-like, the person must overcompensate with humanity.

The line also hints at a broader cultural moment: the era’s anxiety about technology as alienation, about brains eclipsing heart. Dolby’s wording exposes how “coldness” functions as a moral label, a way to discipline artists whose work feels too controlled, too clever, too modern. His real fear isn’t intimacy; it’s indictment. He’s telling us that even in pop, emotion isn’t just felt, it’s performed under threat.

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Dolby, Thomas. (2026, January 16). I was desperate really for people not to accuse me of coldness. It was taboo. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-desperate-really-for-people-not-to-accuse-89559/

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Dolby, Thomas. "I was desperate really for people not to accuse me of coldness. It was taboo." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-desperate-really-for-people-not-to-accuse-89559/.

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"I was desperate really for people not to accuse me of coldness. It was taboo." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-desperate-really-for-people-not-to-accuse-89559/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.

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Thomas Dolby (born October 14, 1958) is a Musician from England.

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