"I was not allowed a physical lover. Falling in love with Love was the best I could get"
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Then he pivots: “Falling in love with Love was the best I could get.” The capital-L Love is doing double duty. It’s a theological abstraction (God, agape, the officially sanctioned object), and it’s also a protective euphemism - the way you rename hunger so it hurts less. Blue doesn’t romanticize the substitution; he frames it as a consolation prize, a second-best intimacy offered to someone whose first-best option has been vetoed.
The intent is quietly accusatory without becoming a slogan. Blue, a clergyman who was also publicly gay, is pointing at the psychological choreography demanded by certain religious cultures: transmute desire into devotion, turn a body into an idea, make “spirituality” carry what relationship is supposed to carry. The subtext is that this alchemy can be sincere and still be a loss. There’s poignancy in the admission that he did, in fact, fall in love - he just had to choose a partner that couldn’t hold him back.
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| Topic | Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Blue, Lionel. (2026, January 18). I was not allowed a physical lover. Falling in love with Love was the best I could get. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-not-allowed-a-physical-lover-falling-in-18070/
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Blue, Lionel. "I was not allowed a physical lover. Falling in love with Love was the best I could get." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-not-allowed-a-physical-lover-falling-in-18070/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I was not allowed a physical lover. Falling in love with Love was the best I could get." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-not-allowed-a-physical-lover-falling-in-18070/. Accessed 9 Feb. 2026.








