"I was raised thinking I'd burn in hell for being gay, but I didn't have a choice. It's just who I am"
About this Quote
The key move is the shift from “I was raised thinking” to “I didn’t have a choice.” The first clause assigns responsibility outward to a system: family, church, community, the ambient moral weather. The second refuses the most common moral indictment of LGBTQ people - that being gay is a decision, a lifestyle, a provocation. “It’s just who I am” reads almost deliberately unpoetic, a conversational end-stop that denies the audience any melodrama to hide behind. It’s not a plea for applause; it’s a boundary.
Context matters because Rodriguez isn’t a cloistered memoirist; he’s a pop-culture figure whose visibility has historically been treated as entertainment first, testimony second. Coming from an actor associated with a mainstream makeover era that packaged gayness as charm and taste, this quote punctures the glossy edit. It reminds us that “representation” often arrives after years of private terror, and that the cost of that terror was paid in silence, shame, and the fear of cosmic punishment. The subtext is clear: if hell is built on misunderstanding what a person can control, then the moral error isn’t queerness - it’s the doctrine that taught him to hate himself.
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| Topic | Equality |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Rodriguez, Jai. (2026, January 17). I was raised thinking I'd burn in hell for being gay, but I didn't have a choice. It's just who I am. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-raised-thinking-id-burn-in-hell-for-being-80038/
Chicago Style
Rodriguez, Jai. "I was raised thinking I'd burn in hell for being gay, but I didn't have a choice. It's just who I am." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-raised-thinking-id-burn-in-hell-for-being-80038/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I was raised thinking I'd burn in hell for being gay, but I didn't have a choice. It's just who I am." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-raised-thinking-id-burn-in-hell-for-being-80038/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.



