"I was very young when we got married and I don't know why it worked out like it did or how I was smart enough to know that this was the right guy, but somehow I got lucky"
About this Quote
The line “I was very young” does double duty. It signals vulnerability (youth as a recipe for mistakes) while quietly raising the stakes: if it worked then, it really worked. “I don’t know why” and “how I was smart enough” puncture the myth that love is a meritocracy, that good outcomes always follow good planning. She’s rejecting the self-help narrative that you can optimize your way into permanence.
The subtext is also defensive in the best sense: an insurance policy against judgment. If it had gone differently, she’s implying, that wouldn’t necessarily mean she chose wrong; it might mean life is chaotic. By crediting luck, she sidesteps smugness and makes room for the audience’s messier realities.
Context matters: Sedgwick and Kevin Bacon have been held up as rare evidence that Hollywood marriages can last. This quote lightly resists being turned into a TED Talk about “doing it right.” Her intent is to honor the relationship without turning it into a template, admitting that sometimes the most consequential decisions aren’t fully explainable, even to the person who made them.
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| Topic | Marriage |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Sedgwick, Kyra. (2026, January 17). I was very young when we got married and I don't know why it worked out like it did or how I was smart enough to know that this was the right guy, but somehow I got lucky. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-very-young-when-we-got-married-and-i-dont-64357/
Chicago Style
Sedgwick, Kyra. "I was very young when we got married and I don't know why it worked out like it did or how I was smart enough to know that this was the right guy, but somehow I got lucky." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-very-young-when-we-got-married-and-i-dont-64357/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I was very young when we got married and I don't know why it worked out like it did or how I was smart enough to know that this was the right guy, but somehow I got lucky." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-was-very-young-when-we-got-married-and-i-dont-64357/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









