"I will not be concerned at other men's not knowing me;I will be concerned at my own want of ability"
About this Quote
In Confucius’s world, status wasn’t abstract. Office, honor, and influence were real levers in a hierarchical society, and the era’s political chaos made the scramble for position feel urgent. That’s why this restraint matters. It’s not anti-ambition; it’s a redefinition of ambition away from visibility and toward worthiness. “Other men not knowing me” isn’t mere obscurity. It’s the anxiety of being unread, unrecognized, unchosen. Confucius insists that the only panic worth having is “my own want of ability” - a phrase that frames self-cultivation as moral duty, not self-help.
The subtext is strategic: control what is controllable. You can’t govern how others perceive you, but you can govern your preparation, judgment, and conduct. In a culture built on roles and rituals, ability isn’t just skill; it’s fitness to serve. The quote works because it makes humility muscular: the ego shrinks, but the standards rise.
Quote Details
| Topic | Humility |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Confucius. (2026, January 17). I will not be concerned at other men's not knowing me;I will be concerned at my own want of ability. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-will-not-be-concerned-at-other-mens-not-knowing-24769/
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Confucius. "I will not be concerned at other men's not knowing me;I will be concerned at my own want of ability." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-will-not-be-concerned-at-other-mens-not-knowing-24769/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I will not be concerned at other men's not knowing me;I will be concerned at my own want of ability." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-will-not-be-concerned-at-other-mens-not-knowing-24769/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.









