"I will not play tug o' war. I'd rather play hug o' war. Where everyone hugs instead of tugs, Where everyone giggles and rolls on the rug, Where everyone kisses, and everyone grins, and everyone cuddles, and everyone wins"
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The subtext is not naive pacifism so much as a child-powered critique of competitiveness. Tug o' war is cooperation in the service of defeating someone; "hug o' war" is cooperation with no external enemy. Silverstein keeps the word "war" precisely to mock it. He doesn't pretend struggle disappears; he drains it of its usual payoff. The "war" becomes physical contact, laughter, and surrender to ridiculousness. It's disarming in the literal sense: arms are for holding, not pulling.
The piling rhythm of "Where everyone..". works like an incantation, turning generosity into a chant you can feel in your body. "Giggles and rolls on the rug" grounds the fantasy in domestic, shaggy-carpet reality, not abstract ideals. And that last line - "everyone wins" - is the slyest part: it's a direct rebuttal to the cultural script that someone has to lose for anything to matter. Silverstein's intent is to smuggle a political idea through a sing-song: the most radical alternative to conflict might be refusing its framing, and offering a sillier one.
Quote Details
| Topic | Kindness |
|---|---|
| Source | "Hug O' War" — poem by Shel Silverstein, published in the collection Where the Sidewalk Ends (Harper & Row), 1974. |
| Cite | Cite this Quote |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Silverstein, Shel. (2026, January 16). I will not play tug o' war. I'd rather play hug o' war. Where everyone hugs instead of tugs, Where everyone giggles and rolls on the rug, Where everyone kisses, and everyone grins, and everyone cuddles, and everyone wins. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-will-not-play-tug-o-war-id-rather-play-hug-o-130985/
Chicago Style
Silverstein, Shel. "I will not play tug o' war. I'd rather play hug o' war. Where everyone hugs instead of tugs, Where everyone giggles and rolls on the rug, Where everyone kisses, and everyone grins, and everyone cuddles, and everyone wins." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-will-not-play-tug-o-war-id-rather-play-hug-o-130985/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I will not play tug o' war. I'd rather play hug o' war. Where everyone hugs instead of tugs, Where everyone giggles and rolls on the rug, Where everyone kisses, and everyone grins, and everyone cuddles, and everyone wins." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-will-not-play-tug-o-war-id-rather-play-hug-o-130985/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.







