"I would have hated to been locked into music for the last 20 years and not been able to have a family"
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The intent feels practical, even defensive: a preemptive answer to fans who treat dedication as purity and domestic life as compromise. Only isn’t denying music’s importance; he’s rejecting the idea that it must be totalizing. The phrase “would have hated” signals a counterfactual he’s relieved to have avoided, and “locked into” suggests industry expectations as much as personal obsession: touring cycles, brand maintenance, the pressure to keep being “the band” in public even when you’re changing in private.
Subtextually, it’s an argument about adulthood in subcultures that often fetishize perpetual adolescence. Punk has always preached freedom; it also produces its own orthodoxies. By naming “family” as the thing he wouldn’t trade, he’s claiming a different kind of agency - one that doesn’t read stability as selling out, but as choosing a life that doesn’t collapse into a single identity.
The line works because it’s unglamorous on purpose. It refuses the myth that sacrifice is automatically noble, and it insists that time matters: 20 years is long enough for a persona to become a prison.
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"I would have hated to been locked into music for the last 20 years and not been able to have a family." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-would-have-hated-to-been-locked-into-music-for-55813/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.




