"I write for those women who do not speak, for those who do not have a voice because they were so terrified, because we are taught to respect fear more than ourselves. We've been taught that silence would save us, but it won't"
About this Quote
The line "respect fear more than ourselves" is a brutal reframing. Respect is usually reserved for authority, elders, rules. Lorde exposes how oppression hijacks that moral vocabulary, turning fear into something you honor, defer to, organize your life around. Then she lands the sentence that makes the whole passage combustible: "We've been taught that silence would save us, but it won't". It reads like a proverb, but it’s anti-proverbial: a corrective to survival advice handed down between women, especially those punished for being "too much" - too loud, too Black, too queer, too angry.
Context matters. Lorde wrote out of the Black feminist, lesbian, and anti-racist movements of the 1970s and 80s, where speaking up carried real costs: professional exile, violence, medical neglect, state surveillance. The subtext is unsentimental: silence is not neutrality. It’s exposure. Speech, for Lorde, is not safe - it’s necessary.
Quote Details
| Topic | Equality |
|---|---|
| Source | Verified source: Black Women Writers at Work (Audre Lorde, 1983)
Evidence: This is so important that it bears repeating. I write for those women who do not speak, for those who do not have a voice because they/we were so terrified, because we are taught to respect fear more than ourselves. We've been taught that silence would save us, but it won't. We must learn to respect ourselves and our needs more than the fear of our differences, and we must learn to share ourselves with each other. (Page 105). The quote is verifiably reprinted in Audre Lorde's interview in Claudia Tate, ed., Black Women Writers at Work, published by Continuum in 1983. A later scholarly source quoting the passage gives the exact location as page 105 and preserves the wording 'they/we were so terrified.' Another legal journal source attributes the epigraph to 'BLACK WOMEN WRITERS AT WORK 100–16 (Claudia Tate ed., 1985),' but that appears to be a mistaken year: multiple catalog records and secondary references identify the original Continuum edition as 1983. I could verify this source as the earliest published primary-source location I found in Audre Lorde's own words, but I could not confirm from available evidence whether she first spoke the words in an earlier live interview before the 1983 book publication. Other candidates (1) Critiquing Violent Crime in the Media (Maria Mellins, Sarah Moore, 2022) compilation100.0% ... I write for those women who do not speak , for those who do not have a voice because they were so terrified , bec... |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lorde, Audre. (2026, March 17). I write for those women who do not speak, for those who do not have a voice because they were so terrified, because we are taught to respect fear more than ourselves. We've been taught that silence would save us, but it won't. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-write-for-those-women-who-do-not-speak-for-138385/
Chicago Style
Lorde, Audre. "I write for those women who do not speak, for those who do not have a voice because they were so terrified, because we are taught to respect fear more than ourselves. We've been taught that silence would save us, but it won't." FixQuotes. March 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-write-for-those-women-who-do-not-speak-for-138385/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I write for those women who do not speak, for those who do not have a voice because they were so terrified, because we are taught to respect fear more than ourselves. We've been taught that silence would save us, but it won't." FixQuotes, 17 Mar. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-write-for-those-women-who-do-not-speak-for-138385/. Accessed 5 Apr. 2026.











