"I'd been around women who put me down, made me feel bad, or said things to fuel my insecurity"
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The phrasing does a lot of work. "I'd been around" suggests an environment, not a single villain; it's a pattern he tolerated, maybe normalized. "Put me down" and "made me feel bad" are blunt, almost childlike terms, which makes the hurt feel unfiltered rather than rehearsed. Then the sharpest clause arrives: "said things to fuel my insecurity". That's the subtextual accusation - not that someone accidentally hit a nerve, but that they knew where the nerve was and pressed it. "Fuel" implies an ongoing fire: insecurity as something fed, kept burning, because it gives another person leverage.
Culturally, it's a rare moment of male vulnerability framed without macho defensiveness. It also complicates the easy story that women are only victims of beauty politics; Bergin points to how those same pressures can ricochet through relationships, turning insecurity into a currency people spend on each other.
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Bergin, Michael. (2026, January 16). I'd been around women who put me down, made me feel bad, or said things to fuel my insecurity. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/id-been-around-women-who-put-me-down-made-me-feel-84985/
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"I'd been around women who put me down, made me feel bad, or said things to fuel my insecurity." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/id-been-around-women-who-put-me-down-made-me-feel-84985/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





