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"I'd hopefully work through all my issues with men first so then I'd be okay being with a woman"

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There is a raw pragmatism in Plato's line, the kind you hear from someone trying to turn chaos into a plan. She frames sexuality less as a glowing epiphany than as a triage order: first, "issues with men", then the permission to be "okay" with a woman. That sequencing matters. It suggests desire exists, but safety and self-trust don't - at least not yet. "Hopefully" does quiet, devastating work: it admits she doesn't fully control the process, and that healing is being treated like a prerequisite for intimacy rather than something that can happen inside it.

The subtext is the cultural script of the era, where a relationship with a woman could be cast as either a phase, a reaction to trauma, or a second-choice refuge when heterosexual romance has gone sour. Plato both echoes and resists that script. She doesn't call women a consolation prize; she calls her own unresolved hurt the problem. Still, the phrasing flirts with the idea that being with women requires special readiness, as if queerness is a more fragile or consequential category than dating another man.

Coming from a child star whose life was publicly tangled with exploitation, scrutiny, and instability, the quote reads like harm reduction in real time. It's not a manifesto; it's a coping strategy spoken aloud. What makes it land is how it reveals the bargaining we do with ourselves: if I fix the damage first, then I'll deserve the kind of love that doesn't reopen it.

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Plato, Dana. (2026, January 15). I'd hopefully work through all my issues with men first so then I'd be okay being with a woman. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/id-hopefully-work-through-all-my-issues-with-men-161820/

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Plato, Dana. "I'd hopefully work through all my issues with men first so then I'd be okay being with a woman." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/id-hopefully-work-through-all-my-issues-with-men-161820/.

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"I'd hopefully work through all my issues with men first so then I'd be okay being with a woman." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/id-hopefully-work-through-all-my-issues-with-men-161820/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.

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Dana Plato

Dana Plato (November 7, 1964 - May 8, 1999) was a Actress from USA.

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