"I'd like to know what law is it that says that a woman is a better parent, simply by virtue of her sex?"
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The key phrase is “simply by virtue of her sex.” Benton isn’t arguing that mothers aren’t often central caregivers; he’s challenging the reflex that turns biology into destiny and caregiving into a default female credential. The subtext is messy on purpose: the speaker can sound defensive, even self-interested, which is exactly why it lands. It captures the feeling of walking into a system where the outcome seems preloaded, then being told it’s just “what’s best for the child.”
Context matters. Benton came up during an era when American family law was shifting away from the overt “tender years” doctrine (the presumption that young children belong with the mother) toward a “best interests” standard that still carried the doctrine’s perfume. His question spotlights that gap between reform on paper and bias in practice. For a director known for human-scale moral pressure cookers, the intent isn’t to win an argument; it’s to make the audience notice how quickly fairness gets replaced by ritualized assumptions, especially when gender offers an easy shortcut.
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"I'd like to know what law is it that says that a woman is a better parent, simply by virtue of her sex?" FixQuotes, 18 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/id-like-to-know-what-law-is-it-that-says-that-a-64655/. Accessed 22 Feb. 2026.




