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Life & Wisdom Quote by George Herbert

"If a donkey bray at you, don't bray at him"

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Herbert’s line is a small, sharp instrument: it cuts against the instinct to mirror stupidity with equal stupidity. The donkey is doing what donkeys do bray loudly, repetitively, and without self-awareness. The trap is thinking the right response is to match that volume. Herbert’s counsel isn’t just “be the bigger person.” It’s a tactical warning about contagion: foolishness spreads fastest when it gets a duet.

The intent sits squarely in Herbert’s world of devotional discipline and social hierarchy. As a 17th-century poet-priest, he’s writing for people trying to live inside constant provocation: petty insults, theological quarrels, public shaming. “Don’t bray back” becomes an ethic of restraint that doubles as reputational management. If you answer a donkey in kind, you grant him the dignity of a debate and you risk becoming indistinguishable from the noise you’re trying to correct.

Subtext: not every voice deserves a reply, and not every conflict is a moral arena. Herbert’s wit is in the demotion. He doesn’t elevate the adversary to “enemy” or “fool” he makes him livestock. That’s not merely contempt; it’s a reminder that some aggression is automatic, not meaningful. The smartest move is refusal: to keep your speech human.

In a culture that prized rhetoric as a marker of virtue, the line also polices the speaker. Your words are supposed to signal order, reason, self-rule. Trading brays is surrendering that identity for the cheap thrill of retaliation. Herbert’s moral is brutally modern: attention is currency; don’t spend it on nonsense.

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Herbert, George. (2026, January 18). If a donkey bray at you, don't bray at him. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-donkey-bray-at-you-dont-bray-at-him-8516/

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Herbert, George. "If a donkey bray at you, don't bray at him." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-donkey-bray-at-you-dont-bray-at-him-8516/.

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"If a donkey bray at you, don't bray at him." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-donkey-bray-at-you-dont-bray-at-him-8516/. Accessed 14 Feb. 2026.

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George Herbert (April 3, 1593 - March 1, 1633) was a Poet from United Kingdom.

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