"If a man has been his mother's undisputed darling he retains throughout life the triumphant feeling, the confidence in success, which not seldom brings actual success along with it"
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The subtext is classic Freud: adult behavior is not a series of rational choices but a compromise between present circumstances and ancient attachments. Confidence, in this framing, isn’t self-help fluff; it’s a residue of being securely mirrored. That’s why the mechanism is self-fulfilling without being mystical. People who expect doors to open tend to knock more often, tolerate rejection differently, take up more space. The "not seldom" is doing quiet work, too: Freud hedges just enough to sound empirical while still smuggling in a big claim about childhood causality.
Context matters. Freud is writing in a world fixated on heredity, character, and social rank, and he’s offering a psychological rival explanation for why some people seem stamped for victory. It’s also a gentle scandal: the mother, not the marketplace, may be the first engine of ambition.
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Freud, Sigmund. (2026, January 15). If a man has been his mother's undisputed darling he retains throughout life the triumphant feeling, the confidence in success, which not seldom brings actual success along with it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-man-has-been-his-mothers-undisputed-darling-21153/
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Freud, Sigmund. "If a man has been his mother's undisputed darling he retains throughout life the triumphant feeling, the confidence in success, which not seldom brings actual success along with it." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-man-has-been-his-mothers-undisputed-darling-21153/.
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"If a man has been his mother's undisputed darling he retains throughout life the triumphant feeling, the confidence in success, which not seldom brings actual success along with it." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-man-has-been-his-mothers-undisputed-darling-21153/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.










