"If a man is tongue-tied, don't laugh at him, but, rather, feel pity for him, as you would for a man with broken legs"
About this Quote
The intent is corrective, but the subtext is sharper than simple kindness. In a culture that treats fluency as intelligence and eloquence as character, the tongue-tied person becomes a convenient target: their silence invites projection, their pauses invite contempt. Cahan is arguing that mockery isn’t just rude; it’s an abuse of power. The “rather” matters: he’s not asking for neutrality. He’s asking you to actively revise your instinct from entertainment to empathy.
Context matters: Cahan, a Yiddish-speaking immigrant who became a major English-language writer and editor, lived inside the pressure cooker of assimilation. For immigrants, workers, and the poor, language isn’t just self-expression; it’s access - to jobs, to dignity, to being heard by institutions. Read that way, “tongue-tied” expands beyond stuttering into the broader condition of being unable to speak the dominant language smoothly. The line quietly indicts a society that mistakes linguistic privilege for human worth, then laughs when others can’t keep up.
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| Topic | Kindness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Cahan, Abraham. (2026, January 17). If a man is tongue-tied, don't laugh at him, but, rather, feel pity for him, as you would for a man with broken legs. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-man-is-tongue-tied-dont-laugh-at-him-but-61450/
Chicago Style
Cahan, Abraham. "If a man is tongue-tied, don't laugh at him, but, rather, feel pity for him, as you would for a man with broken legs." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-man-is-tongue-tied-dont-laugh-at-him-but-61450/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If a man is tongue-tied, don't laugh at him, but, rather, feel pity for him, as you would for a man with broken legs." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-man-is-tongue-tied-dont-laugh-at-him-but-61450/. Accessed 4 Mar. 2026.











